My wife and I just finished listening to a new book we both found resonating with our own points of view. It talks about the roots of a good life which include accepting that life is a series of problems to solve, pains to deal with, and making choices that free us from the burden of serving values given to us from outside our own truth. As the architects of our own beliefs, we are wrong about everything just as everyone is. Accepting uncertainty about life and more especially ourselves is the key to letting go of the burden of judgement our society and environment encourage us to do. We learn from failure so why not accept our problems. We find success when we work through the issues in our lives. However, when seeking success we avoid problems and find misery. Failure is the way forward and is the foundation of growth, learning and success. Looking at how our values drive our beliefs, feelings and emotions, the book focuses on values we have control over rather than the typical positivisitic values pushed on us allowing self-help and organizations to profit from our lives. Choosing values directly relating to our lives enables us to gain more control and form metrics of success grounded in our own purposes. We can say ‘no’ to everything not directly related to our values and free ourselves to live our life. And, most importantly, we can face the facts of our lives including the ultimate grounding principle for each and every one of us. We all die. As Mark Manson says in The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life, “Death is the light by which the shadow of all life’s meaning is measured.”
It’s a Fucking Great book that directly relates to the Biz of You. But don’t take my word for it, check it out yourself. Perhaps I’ll just read it again. If you want to check out some of Mark’s thoughts, he’s a big blogger. Here are couple pages of interest:
Excerpts from the book: The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck
Why I’m wrong about Everything (but so are you)
And an article that will connect with everyone:
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