Physical change is present throughout our lives and it’s up to us to manage it. Our bodies grow and mature into our twenties and thirties. In our thirties and forties our bodies begin to show signs of wear and tear depending what we did in prior years. In our fifties and sixties we can get… Read More
Make a Damn Decision
If you can’t decide for yourself, someone else will. Indecision is surrendering one’s inalienable freedom to choose. Indecision facilitates purposelessness and if practiced long enough may lead to a feeling of dread for the meaningless of our actions. I’ve been working with my kids on making decisions and following them through. A couple of years… Read More
How Much Kool-aid Are You Drinking?
There’s one thing we all believe in. We all believe in the story we tell ourselves. This story is a composite of our past experiences, what we’ve accepted as truth, stories from others, our continuously unfolding experience, and the reality of our environment we interact with. The problem is this story does not represent the… Read More
Embrace the Mistakes
My wife has been working with our daughter on the importance of going through the grading of her homework when the teachers give it back. Of course, our daughter doesn’t like it when she’s wrong. Most people don’t. She take’s it personally and gets down on herself. Being wrong is a misconception and to take… Read More
Own Up and Put Out
Transformation of inputs into outputs – this is the process by which the goals are obtained. I found the above line while poking around some system thinking pages on Wikipedia. This is a basic idea of not only systems thinking but also the process approach mentioned in a previous post. It’s also key to leadership.… Read More
Trust & Respect
My wife and I have been working with our five year old boy on trust and respect. Recently, we punished him for some negative behavior at school. As it was something the school had to call us about, we choose to take away his Legos until he can earn our trust back. I also let… Read More
What’s Worthy of Your Strife?
“What man actually needs is not a tensionless state but rather the striving and struggling for some goal worthy of him. What he needs is not the discharge of tension at any cost, but the call of a potential meaning waiting to be fulfilled by him.” -Viktor Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning What’s the goal… Read More
Warm Work Relationships
What about work relationships? A friend from South Africa emailed me and asked me follow up on the recent post about “the warmth of our close relationships have more to do with our success than money or fame” After high school or college and prior to retirement we spend the majority of our lives interacting… Read More
Warm Relationships Are Key
“Financial success depends on warmth of relationships and, above a certain level, not on intelligence.” source: Wikipedia, Grant Study I recently watched the TED talk given by Robert Waldinger on “What makes a good life? Lessons from the longest study on happiness.” One of the key things he points out is how important relationships are… Read More
Embrace Your Ignorance
Ignorance is nothing more than a lack of knowledge or information. By accepting and understanding our ignorance we enable ourselves to gain knowledge and information. A child is naturally ignorant and does not fear or judge their ignorance. As we grow up, our peers judge us by our knowledge of things. It allows us to… Read More
Business of You 