Use It or Lose It

Without clear direction established by the purpose we give ourselves, time becomes the fire in which we burn. With no drive towards something, our time and energy is used by others for their own purposes. Marketing agencies use advertisement to drive us towards their purposes. Our friends and family can use us to get things… Read More

Make a Damn Decision

If you can’t decide for yourself, someone else will. Indecision is surrendering one’s inalienable freedom to choose. Indecision facilitates purposelessness and if practiced long enough may lead to a feeling of dread for the meaningless of our actions. I’ve been working with my kids on making decisions and following them through. A couple of years… Read More

Working with our Ego-Bound Delusions

Sometimes it seems like everyone is so ready to point out mistakes and put us in our place. Leaders tell us how we are not looking at this or that perspective or dabble in our work and undermine our own efforts. Co-workers tell us our questions are not useful or mask our inquiry with their… Read More

Can’t Lead From the Weeds

There are those in positions of power who get lost in their own egos and need to be in the center of things.  These people wind up leading with techniques like micro-managing, helicopter-managing or incessantly dabbling in the workings of their particular organizations and even the work of other organizations.  They get placed in these… Read More

Nothing Like Getting Laid Off

Getting laid off, fired or let go in any capacity sucks.  It peaks emotions and some folks lose control.  Our mental model for life begins breaking down.  Our house of cards tumbles down and it’s easy to get overwhelmed with thoughts of, “What am I going to do?” or “I didn’t see this coming.”  We… Read More

Soap Operas and Beer

The family went to Ridgway last weekend.  We stayed at a hotel and met a most patient friendly hotel manager but the name of Patti.  She put our 5-year-old to work helping set up evening drinks for the hotel guests.  We got to talking and she mentioned how she came to her current position via… Read More

How Much Kool-aid Are You Drinking?

There’s one thing we all believe in.  We all believe in the story we tell ourselves.  This story is a composite of our past experiences, what we’ve accepted as truth, stories from others, our continuously unfolding experience, and the reality of our environment we interact with. The problem is this story does not represent the… Read More