Focusing on having what we don’t have right now creates misery not just for ourselves but those around us. Holding on to having whatever we’re focused on now only sets us on the path of anger, hate and suffering. My son received some money for Christmas. The $40 burned a hole in his pocket. He… Read More
The Greatest Reduction
There are three simple steps for dealing with difficult people and one path to increasing the value of our lives. Read More
The Story We Tell Ourselves
What illusions have I been telling myself and how is that interfering with my success Read More
Fundamentalist To The Core
I suppose the important thing is what we do with our judgements. Do they help us expand our experience through learning or tend to keep us stuck in our particular mode in life? Read More
Avoiding A Wasted Life
A good friend and I had the opportunity to catch up at a work function recently. We talked of family and shared friends. We swapped thoughts about the different stages of life, kids and marriage. We spoke of the work we enjoy and the work we don’t. We sprinkled our conversation with politically incorrect but… Read More
Scope This!
The scope of our attention determines our reality. We create more work than necessary and hubris when our scope of attention extends into details not mattering to our particular task or intention. We create uncertainty and fear of the unknown when our scope of attention does not include the pertinent details for our task or… Read More
Tyranny of Certainty
Intolerance of ambiguity is a reflection of an authoritarian mindset. Being certain is comfortable. It’s the easy path through the dark woods of life. It’s a defense mechanism against the truth of the unknown. Assuming we know why things are the way the way they are creates a barrier to the truth that is continually… Read More
The Weight of Work
This post may be better titled the weight of responsibility. However, this particular experience is associated with the return to work after two weeks of vacation with family and thus inexorably tied to the emotional weight of work itself. I just don’t think of my responsibilities at home with the kids, wife and house as… Read More
Pinochle is the Biz
Life is like a game of pinochle; you bid on what you’re dealt plus gut feel, trade your weak cards for new ones, meld with your partner, and see what tricks you pull together. A good team plays off one another finding fun no matter what cards come their way. Connecting with one another enables… Read More
Inner Democracy
Do you have a boy king in your life? I do. He knows what to do even before he knows how to do what he wants. He’s confident he can do anything not asking for help from his sister, parents or teachers. He goes off and creates things to show us, taking an inordinate amount… Read More
